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Marriage Matters - Muslimah and Her Marriage

وَمِنْ ءايَـتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَجاً
And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect. (Ar-Rum 30:21)

وَجَعَلَ مِنْهَا زَوْجَهَا لِيَسْكُنَ إِلَيْهَا
It is He Who has created you from a single person (Adam), and (then) He has created from him his wife [Hawwa (Eve)], in order that he might enjoy the pleasure of living with her." (Al-A'raf 7:189)

Marriage is an important part of a Muslim(ah)'s life. Prophet Muhammad, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, has told us that it is half of our Deen. A successful marriage can be achieved by following the guidelines of our Deen and by the Will of Allaah, subhaanahu wa Taa'ala. If you are not yet married, pay attention to choosing a righteous spouse - you have a goal that you both try to reach, ie. striving for the sake of Allaah in order to enter Paradise, by the will of Allaah. And if you are married already, fulfill the rights of your husband. By doing this you are obeying Allaah and earning reward. Study this Deen together with your spouse and help each other in fulfilling your duties.

"If a woman prays her five daily prayers, fasts her month (of Ramadan), obeys her husband and guards her chastity, then it will be said to her: 'Enter Paradise by whichever of its gates you wish.'" [Reported by Ahmad and al-Tabarani; its narrators are thiqat. See Majma' al-Zawa'id, 4/306, Bab haqq al-zawj 'ala'l-mar'ah.]

Umm Salamah (May Allah be pleased with her) said: "The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: 'Any woman who dies, and her husband is pleased with her, will enter Paradise.'" [Ibn Majah, 1/595, Kitab al-nikah, bab haqq al-zawj 'ala'l-mar'ah; al-Hakim, 4/173, Kitab al-birr wa'l-silah; he said its isnad is sahih.]

We have also gathered resources related to polygyny. Most resources online concentrate on explaining that it is lawful for a man to have up to four wives. We have included some of these resources but we have also tried to find resources that deal with the emotional side that women go through in polygyny. It can be a great jihaad for a sister yet the rewards will be great, insha'Allaah.

May Allaah give us Muslimaat the strenght and patience to be good and righteous wives, ameen.

Before Getting Married

Marriage as an Act of 'Ibaadah
..what I should be looking for in a spouse?

Suitable Age for Marriage
Shaykh `Abdul-`Azeez Bin Baz, Fatawa Islamiyah

Choosing a Husband
What every Muslimah should look for in a prospective husband.

Marrying one who does not pray
Reply of Shaykh ibn Baaz.

The Disbelieving Father May Not be a Guardian of His Daughter in Marriage
Reply by Shaykh `Abdul-`Azeez Bin Baz

On delaying the marriage of a young woman until completion of high school or university education
There is a widespread custom of a young woman or her father refusing those who propose to her until she has completed her high school or university education, or so that she may study for a number of years. What is the ruling on that? And what is your advice to those who do so, so that the young women might reach the age of thirty or more without marrying?

The Ruling on a Young Woman's Guardian Refusing to Give Her in Marriage
Reply by Shaykh `Abdul-`Azeez Bin Baz

What is Permissable for the Suitor to See of the Woman Before the Wedding If a man makes a proposal of marriage to a young woman, is it obligatory for him to see her? Also, is it correct for the young woman to uncover her hair and to reveal her beauty more for her fianc�? Advise us, and may Allaah benefit you.

What is the view of the religion concerning [premarital] relations?
Reply by Shaykh Muhammad bin Saalih al-`Uthaymeen

A Guide To Marriage
In Arabic & English
A lecture about how to attain a successful marriage. The shaykh talks about how to choose the right marriage partner, closeness between husband and wife and how it is related to Taqwa (righteousness and Fear of Allah) and Imaan, etc.

Forced Marriages
A warning from the Scholars against the invalidity of forced marriages within Islaam.

Married Life

Encouraging One's Family Upon Good
A Jum'ah Khutbah from a series dealing with relations between the husband and wife.

Advice On Establishing An Islamic Home
An adhoc lecture given in Masjid As-Sunnah, Heathrow, London May 2004. Some pieces of advice on how to deal with our wives, (and husbands), children, work, education and other important issues.

How to Obtain Marital Bliss

The Obligation of a Woman Obeying her Husband
AUTHOR: Shaikh Saalih bin Fawzaan Al-Fawzaan

The Woman's Role in Building a Successful Household
Author: Shaikh Muhammad al-Anjaree

Guidelines for Considering Marriage and Happiness in Marriage
Author: Shaikh Muhammad al-Anjaree

Supplication before sexual intercourse

Polygyny

Concerning Polygyny
Some people say marrying more than one wife is not allowed unless a person has an orphan under his care and he fears that he will not do justice between them. Then he may marry their mother or one of her daughters. For evidence they quote, "And if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphan-girls, then marry women of your choice, two, three or four." (al-Nisa:3)

Polygyny Petals
This group is for sisters in polygyny, or those looking to be. Also sisters interested in learning more about this particular sunnah are more than welcomed to join our group.

Positive Polygyny
Section of the SalafiSisters.org Website. Contains links to articles, as well as poems about polygyny and experiences of sisters living in polygyny

From Monogamy to Polygyny - A Way Through

From Monogamy to Polygyny: A Way Through addresses the deep and complex issues and concerns the Muslim women worldwide have with polygyny. The insight offered by this book is new, unique, and encouraging. Practical advice is brought forth to aid in moving past the negative feelings that are commonly associated with polygyny, ultimately helping the Muslim woman progress to a higher level of Iman, In sha Allah. Rich with understanding, comfort, advice, motivation, clarity, examples, experiences, and answers; a way through is paved for the Muslim woman, making polygyny easier, or at the very least more endurable. Although this book is geared mainly towards women, its vast content can give men insight into the emotional affects of polygyny on women, which they can use to make sound and wise decisions. Overall, this is a valuable resource for both Muslim men and Muslim women considering, dealing with, questioning, and pondering polygyny.

You Will Never Be Able To Do Perfect Justice Between Wives Even If It Is Your Ardent Desire

Is Permission the First Wife Required?
Reply by Shaykh Muhammad 'Umar Baazmool, instructor at Umm Al-Quraa University in Makkah

There is No Contradiction in the Verses Regarding Polygyny
Shaykh `Abdul-`Azeez Bin Baz, Islamic Fatawa Regarding Women

Divorce

A Beautiful Advice Concerning Marrying then Divorcing Easily
[Q]: "There is an evil habit that has spread amongst the practicing brothers (salafiyyeen), it is that one of them will marry a woman and after a few short days a quarrel will take place between the spouses and the news will spread (to the community). Then, there are some brothers who encourage him to divorce her, until the point that there is a sister who has been divorced fourteen times, and this is widespread and apparent, and there is no one there (America) from the people of knowledge for them to return to, so what do you advise us with?"

Is the woman who seeks a divorce (khula) from her husband without a legitimate reason a sinner?
by: Shaykh 'Abdul 'Azeez bin 'Abdullaah bin Baaz

Imaam Muqbil Replies: Intercourse During the Waiting Period of Divorce

Other related articles & books

Shaykh 'Abdul-'Azeez ar-Raajihee on Marriage via the Internet

The permissibility and conditions for marrying women from the people of the Book
by: Permanent Committee of Scholars

The Marriage with the Greatest Blessing is that with Lesser Financial Burden
Shaykh Muhammad bin Saalih al-`Uthaymeen, Islamic Fatawa Regarding Women

Embracing Islaam While Having a Non Muslim Husband
by Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-Uthaymeen

Marrying Her non-Muslim Husband After He Embraces Islaam
The Permanent Committee for Islaamic Research and Verdicts

Marriage with the intention to divorce
by Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-Uthaymeen